Hello everybody and happy holidays! Today we’re going to deviate from the normal, indispensable advice in the art of obtaining relationships and just have a little mental meandering into the topic of happiness and wellbeing during the holiday season. As we all know, this time of year brings many tests and trials on top of all the happy memories such as fighting family members, strain on relationships and especially (for me) ingesting sprouts and dealing with the aftermath but there is a simple piece of advice which I consider to be incredibly useful, now especially. That is to smile.
Smiling is not only how we can judge a person’s happiness but how we share it too; it’s as attractive, welcoming and infectious as the woman on the corner is to you after 10 beers in a backwater local. It’s scientifically noted that humans can innately recognise when a smile in genuine and when it’s forced which sucks for those of us that can’t act for example:
- ‘Thanks honey! I’ve aaaaalways wanted a woolly card holder!’ - ‘…screw you Darren.’
Poor Darren. Also I find it’s best to not ever practise a smile in bad situations but rather try to think positively about the tripe you’ve been given, the argument you’ve gotten yourself in or in fact the sprout you’re about to chew. You can think about the money you’ll get from putting the tripe on ebay, the fact that sprouts are a vegetable and therefore you’re practically on a diet and especially this; the fact that you have someone there who cares enough about you to argue with you. It’s the little things, the little things that not everybody has.
For the people reading this article still looking for a special somebody then this advice goes double for you (despite probably being twice as hard). Wanting happiness and smiling go hand in hand unless you’re the Grinch or Severus Snape, it reciprocates itself and is desired by everybody, when you see a smile, you see happiness and are attracted to it. Don’t go full grin though, that’s a bad move, if you really feel the need to act though I’d go ‘Ashton Kutcher-the lights are on but nobody is home’ style, especially if you have Hollywood pearlies. If you are alone through this period, try to make an effort to speak, be nice to and smile at people you see every day but don’t acknowledge such as neighbours maybe, as this is the best time of the year to connect to and begin new relationships with just about anybody you so choose! The world seems to turn off it’s cynicism somewhere between egg nog number 5 and Christmas cracker time and you have nothing to lose, especially not your smile.
My final words are to wish everybody, sincerely, a merry Christmas, Hanukah, Kwanza (and others I may have missed) and a happy new year. As always, stay safe and keep smiling!