Best Tips on How to End the First Date without Feeling Dumb

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First dates are special. They make you feel nervous before, during and even after! Ending them right is tricky and you may feel awkward just standing there and not knowing how to end it well. Get armed with these tips to help you make a brilliant final of your night out.

Avoid feeling awkward with these tips for the first date ending

This list of 8 tips will help you handle the situation in the best manner and avoid being too nervous.


1. Keep it short
It’s not a good idea to plan lots of stuff for your first date. These are bound to be short, just to get an idea of whether you are into her or not. So, plan a time you are willing to spend on the first date and stick with your agenda. This will help you to avoid the awkwardness. Let her know about your plans right away at the very beginning.
If you linger and do it later, she may think you are not into her and are trying to escape. So, be honest and tell her about your plans before you even know if you like the girl or not.

2. Make it casual
How you end the date greatly depends on where you plan to have it. The best location is the casual one, where you can leave at any time. For instance, you do not like the girl, but you two are sitting and watching the movie. How do you end that date? You leave yourself no way of escape!
So, pick a more casual place, such as bowling or mini golf location. If you two are into each other, you can spend more time there, if not, you end and leave.

3. Try to give her a kiss
Only if she is hot and you just love her. This would let you know if she likes you or not. If she gives you a cheek, well, you are not that lucky. If she kisses you on the lips, you can ask her out again and get the positive answer. However, carefully watch for the signs she is in for the kiss. You can find tips on that in other articles on our blog.
After all you do not want to spend time and invest money into a girl that does not really like you. She might be just using you to get out, because she has a free night. So, risk it and try a kiss as the end.

4. Book the next date
That is if you want it, of course. It’s a good ending. Even if she says “no”, you get informed and spare yourself the trouble and nerves of calling her later to find out. Make a plan ahead of time. Think of an event you two can attend, such as garage concert or something else you like and ask her out.

5. Walk or take her home
This is a must, unless she wants it otherwise. At times girls do not trust men they meet online and do not want them to know where they live. That’s ok. But if she likes it, walk or take her home. Get out from the car with her and say goodbye or possibly kiss the girl. Or at least touch her hand or arm and wish her goodnight.

6. Do not say these phrases
Unless you want to make things worse, never use such phrases as: “It was nice, let’s meet again sometime.” It shows you were not that happy with the date, and you let them know about it. You dump a bucket of cold water down their neck. Be nice to the girl and avoid such things.

7. End with a cute joke
Tease her a bit and let her know you like her and wish to meet again, but with some humor. Spice it up, so to say. However, overdoing it is bad! Make sure you think things through and give her the right amount of humor.

8. Set the exact time of the next date
Instead of saying: let’s meet sometime, set the time: tomorrow, next Wednesday, the upcoming weekend, etc. This shows you are really into the girl and makes her feel better.

Critical mistakes to avoid, when ending the very first date:

Now you know what things to do to finish the date well, but what are the mistakes guys make to ruin everything? These will give you a hint on what not to do ending that date.


  • Pretend you are interested, when you are not
    You will have to tell the truth later on, so why lie now? Just be honest and kind.
  • Not to walk her home, when she expects you to do it
    It’s rude and even if you like her, do not hope for another date, if you make this mistake.
  • Making the date wait for days until you call
    If you are into her, call her few minutes after you two part or a few hours later. The next day is the latest, but if you make her wait 2-3 days or more, that’s a mistake.
  • Being too nervous
    Yes, it’s nice. It shows you like the girl, but it makes you act dumb and be clumsy. So, keep your emotions a bit down and take your nerves under control to win her over. Show her some self-confidence women love in men.
  • Not paying attention to her body language
    You may go for a kiss when the girl clearly indicates: she does not want it. Or miss the signs and opportunity to kiss her, when she shows you: go ahead!

As you see, these tips and mistakes can turn things around. Surely, there is no one for all solutions. So, you still will feel a bit awkward ending the date, but with these tips you can gather your wits and build up your self-confidence to finish it the best way possible.

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