Dating Someone in the Military – Why Long Distance Relationships Rock

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When dating someone in the military you spend time apart. Turns out that could be what ignites a flame in the relationship and keeps it going.

You hear about the tragic effects of long distance relationships all the time, but how about relationships that are partially long distance? If your partner is in the military and travels a lot you have a partial long distance relationship. Is that a curse or a blessing?

There are, no doubt, challenges to being away from your partner. They may have to go away at times that aren’t convenient. Maybe they can’t be there for a funeral, or a birth. Maybe they can’t celebrate your birthday on your actual birthday.

You have to come to terms with that if you are to be happy dating someone in the military. You simply have to set your mind on the importance, not of specific dates, but the time you do spend together. You partner will be there to mourn the sad things and celebrate the good things with you, it’s just s/he can’t always be present when something happens. The important bit is that they are still emotionally there for you.

There are great perks with spending some time away from each other every now and again too. For starters it will force you to communicate with each other in a different way. On your regular date you do things together, so there isn’t necessarily a need for conversation, save remarks about what’s happening. When you are away from each other you are forced to write and speak on the phone. You aren’t sharing an experience, so instead you start sharing your thoughts and feelings. This can lead to much better intimacy.

Besides, who doesn’t dream of getting romantic love letters? People often express themselves more freely in writing too. Maybe because you can’t see them blush?

There’s a lot of truth to the old saying that you don’t know what you have till it’s gone and military dating will make you realize time and time again what you have. By spending time apart you will miss each other. That means you won’t take each other for granted.

Nor is it likely you will get bored with one another, as you will make the most of the time you have together. It’s almost as if there is a ‘military Cupid’ that will always remind you that time is limited, so you have to make the most of it.

Another thing with spending time apart is that you have time for yourself. You have time to be with your friends, focus on your career and develop your hobbies. You aren’t going to lean on someone else to have a fabulous life. Some people forget about themselves when they are in a relationship. This is unlikely to happen if dating someone in the military.

As with any relationship, if there’s mutual chemistry and respect, it really boils down to how much effort you put into making it a great relationship. There are opportunities to turn a relationship with someone in the military into something fantastic by sharing intimate thoughts in letters and over the phone when away from each other and making the most of the time you spend together. So seize it – make a commitment to making the best of it.

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