You did it! You won over the girl of your dreams, and for a while, it was bliss. You were laughing together, talking until the cows came home, living life like there was no tomorrow. And then tomorrow came, and you lost her.
Whether this loss was due to your own failings or to your best friend, Steve, one thing’s for certain: you have to win her back. But how to win back your girlfriend, when it seems as though she’s moved on?
Recover from the Break Up
If you’re thinking about getting back together after a break up, then don’t make an attempt to do so while you’re still broken. Recover from the break up, pull your life together, clean up your act (if that’s what broke you up in the first place). Don’t just appear like someone who’s put together; be put together. Your ex will not be tempted to reconnect, if you’re completely unchanged or, even worse, bottoming out in a downward spiral.
Analyze and Regroup
She left you for a reason. And she probably told you the reason, so now that you know, analyze this within yourself and either change your ways or be willing to work on relationship or personal issues with her. Sometimes the reason she broke up with you really is personal. I know a couple, firsthand, who broke up, not because she didn’t love him anymore, but because she was having her own identity crisis. Although the whole thing left him heartbroken, he was mature about it and let her breathe for a little. A few months passed, and all the while they remained friends. He was there for her when she needed him. That’s what love is. Soon they got back together, all because he was able to analyze the situation, regroup and not give up on their love.
Do Not Play the Blame Game
You want her to like you again? Then don’t blame the break up on her. Although one partner may be more at fault for the disintegration of the relationship, there are always two sides to the same coin. Instead of casting blame every which way, find the means to forgive and forget, and be mature about building your relationship again. If you really want her back, then you can’t hold the break up over her head.
Do Not Play Any Games
While some may say that, to get your ex back, you should rebound with another girlfriend and show her what she’s missing, in my opinion, making your ex jealous is a cheap way to do so. And if this is how you rekindle your relationship, it probably won’t last. You’ll lose her all over again when she sees you haven’t changed. Don’t play games like this one. Be sincere in your attempt to win her over for a second time. Otherwise, what’s the point?
If there was love in your relationship, then you still have hope, because true love never dies; it’s still in her heart. Follow these tips on how to get your ex-girlfriend back, and you may just open her heart to you again.
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