Our users don’t stop asking Wingman Barney what they bother about as they know he will do his best to give a well-considered answer. Questions in this article are quite important, how to know if there’s a mutual sympathy at the start of your future relationship or you are just in love but on long-distance, Wingman Barney knows the answer.
Q. How to maintain a happy, loving relationship despite long distances?
A. The old cliché is that ‘long distance relationships are hard’. Of course they are! You are missing the physical presence and frequent emotional time of your partner; two main aspects that make relationships appealing. Having been through this a lot myself and come through the other side, I can tell you that it is definitely possible without any major complications or weakening of the relationship. The first thing is for you both to understand the reason for the separation, whether it be work, studying or even finances as knowing this and being fine with it is a major ‘must’. If you feel that there is a discrepancy with the reasoning for your distance, the cracks begin even before you’re apart.
Keeping in contact is key also and in this age with instant messaging, Skype and social media, the onus is on you to make sure that a line of communication is available most of the time as frequently as it would be as if you were together. Frequent contact in this way is one of the few easy ways you can show intimacy from a distance and keep the spark alive.
One tip here is to keep in mind your goals. When will you be able to meet again? Where? What will you have achieved together and apart by the time you meet again? Thinking about and discussing this is very practical in the fight against time seeming like it’s dragging. I’ll end with an obvious one: stay faithful physically AND emotionally. The last thing either of you wants is to come back with somebody in between you after everything you’ve worked for. It’s hard but good luck!
Q. How can I tell if a guy likes me?
A. Most of the time guys, I find, are pretty straight forward creatures to understand the intentions of; if he likes you, he’ll make moves to let you know this. This is unless there are complications such as other relationships being involved, not wanting to spoil a long-standing friendship or a working professionalism. The first thing you should know is that these complications are there for a reason as relationships can begin and subsequently end on such rocky situations. Try to broach the subject on a more neutral territory as this will create a relaxed environment in which there is no obligation to go further with both of you being in the knowledge that these things are in the way.
If there are no such complications and you feel that the guy is just shy, for example, he may need some triggers and some subtle (at least) encouragement from you so that he knows his feelings are reciprocated. Most shy people are simply scared of rejection and eliminating his perception of this outcome should spur him on to express his feelings toward you.
Having eliminated possible complications and flirted (encouraged) the man in question, if he still shows no signs of interest, it’s best to let it lie however if you seriously feel that you haven’t solved the question – just ask, there’s nothing to lose from there on out.