When and how to end a relationship
Knowing when to end a relationship is not something you are taught in school. So approaching the subject can be scary and daunting. However, some relationships are just not meant to last forever and most of the time they bring themselves to a natural close. If you find that you are nearing this close or you need to encourage the end then read on. We have compiled the main signs that your relationship isn’t working and how to justify this end for your own mental health. It is super important to put yourself first when it comes to your own wellbeing.
How to know when to end a relationship
There are some tell-tale signs that your relationship has taken a turn for the worse and that it’s time to bring it to an end. These signs can be obvious but they can also be ignored and hidden in yourself, so it is vital that you really look into yourself when considering a break-up.
• They have become abusive. This can be anything from physical or mental but either way, it is horrendously wrong! No one on this earth should be making you feel bad about yourself or harming you. If your partner has started doing this then seek help and guidance from any of your local women’s charities or authorities. Whilst this may seem drastic it is a sadly a common reality for both women and men! Do not suffer in silence, they will not change.
• You have lost confidence in yourself. This can be a result of the previous sign but it might not be as obvious as a bruise. The loss of confidence can happen over time and has a major negative effect on your mental state. If they are making you feel bad about yourself then it’s time to cut them off.
• They are treating you poorly. This doesn’t have to be as extreme as mental or physical abuse but could be simple things. Such as not including you in plans, ignoring you, doing things without considering your feelings, or talking badly about you to others. Either way, it’s time to get rid and move on to someone better.
• You have simply lost feelings for them. It is so easy for love to just fall out of the equation but for it to go unnoticed. You no longer get that happy feeling in your tunny when they walk in and you no longer care about what they are doing or how they are feeling. This may sound terrible but this often the best way to have a break-up. You are less likely to hurt as long and will help you both end on good terms and keep up a civil friendship afterwards.
Should I end my relationship?
Well as you are reading this, you have already been thinking about it for some time. The fact that it is at the forefront of your mind should tell you all you need to know. You shouldn’t feel bad about wanting to end things and chances are if this lack of emotion has been dragged on for a login time, they are probably be feeling the same thing. It is scary making that leap and you may hurt for a while but all pain is temporary and the outcome will be far better than you think.
Signs a relationship isn’t working anymore
Not all signs a relationship needs to end has to be physical or drastically life-changing. They can also be simple things that truly cannot be helped. These can be things such as:
• No longer wanting to spend a lot of time with them. This can happen like the flick of a switch and suddenly you find their cute habits, irritating and grinding. You cant help this but it is important that you are open about this so that they know and are in the loop.
• You are feeling unfulfilled. Some relationship can just feel like they are stuck in the past and no longer represent or fulfill the person you are today, this can especially be the case in long term relationships as we are growing and changing all the time. Once again, be open about this as they might be feeling the same and they may want to try to work this out.
• Lack of affection. This can come from both sides. You may no longer want to give them attention or they do not want to give you any. ">Affection is a clear indication of sexual interest and without this, you have lost a big part of a relationship.
When it’s time to leave a relationship
There are some clear indications when you have had enough of a relationship. Some of which we have covered just now, but it is important through all of this that you take into consideration your partners feelings. Try to make sure that you are not doing this at a bad time for them. For example, if they have just lost a family member or they have just been fired from a job.
This isn’t to say that you have to hang for the sake of it for a year until they recover. But make sure that they do not have a lot of bad news loaded onto them at once. Other signs its time to end a relationship include:
• You are having constant arguments. The ending of a relationship invariably stems from constant arguing in the relationship. It can be over little things all the time or larger issues, but either way, this isn’t healthy. It can have a major impact on your mental health and could give long term issues. Its better for the both of you to just call it quits so that you both can recover and move on.
• You are wanting some freedom. This can be as simple as wanting to go somewhere yourself to something drastic like wanting to travel more. The want for freedom should not be found in a relationship and if you are feeling this then seriously ask yourself if this person is really fulfilling you.
• You have separate dreams and plans. Much like the previous sign, if you have separate dreams and plans for your life and you feel like your partner is holding you back, this isn’t healthy. You may not have fallen out of love with them but you shouldn’t let anyone stand in the way of achieving your lifetime dreams. Talk to your partner about this as they may not be aware that you are feeling this way. You never know you may find a similarity in both of your dreams that may help you both achieve what you want whilst staying together!
How to end a relationship
This can vary depending on the relationship, how long you have been dating or how much you have gone through together. But no matter what the situation is, they deserve an open conversation and some honesty on your part. Be mature about doing this and try not to think of easy ways out. No one wants to have this conversation but dumping someone over text just shouldn’t be done.
You may be asking How do you know when to end a relationship? And if we are being honest, there never really is a good time to end a relationship. Just make sure that they aren’t in a vulnerable position mentally and that they know exactly why you are calling it quits.
When you should end a relationship will change for everyone but lookout for the signs we have mentioned and decide for yourself if things are working out. If you are still in love with them and it is only the little things that are bothering you, maybe give them a second chance? But if they have caused you any sort of physical or mental harm or have cheated on you then it is 100% time to cut them off.