How to get over a breakup when you still love them
If you’re wondering how to move on from someone after they have left you with a broken heart, we can help. Break-ups can be devastating whether you’ve been with someone for many years or a few months, and the inability to shake an ex off your mind can be very frustrating, especially when you’re forced to encounter them on a regular basis. One of the most important things to remember is that you will meet someone special again in future, even if it takes some time. When you do, your former flame will rarely be in your thoughts.
Getting over love
Don’t start a relationship with just anyone in order to fast-track your emotional recovery. This rarely works, if ever. It may take a while for your heart to heal but settling for someone who doesn’t tick your boxes is never a good idea. Don’t attempt to make your ex jealous by starting a new relationship with the wrong person, and do try to learn from the experience. Many people who felt they would never feel the same about anyone again have been proved very wrong.
Do you need help?
It may be hard to listen to certain songs, go to certain places or watch specific movies without thinking about your ex. This will pass eventually. If you do need help and find yourself slipping into depression, seek emergency assistance. This help could come from friends or family members, but you may need to see a professional if your mental health starts to deteriorate. Try not to talk about your broken relationship with your friends too much and attempt to enjoy activities that take your mind off things. If you were not the person that decided to end things, don’t assume you are no longer attractive. Chances are the relationship failed because you were simply not compatible with one another. If you were cheated on, don’t take this to heart – the other person is at fault for being weak and unable to resist temptation.
Distance yourself if necessary
Don’t try to rush the healing process. Give yourself as much time as you need to start feeling better and preparing yourself for the next chapter of your emotional life. Be angry for a while but then try to let it go and embrace the future. It may be wise to unfriend or block them on social media if you still have feelings for them. You could unblock or re-add them when things are not so raw. Whatever you do, don’t contact them after a drink – you may wish to delete their number to avoid this temptation, as you will wake up feeling wracked with embarrassment.