Is Social Media giving you dating anxiety?

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25% of Brits would rather give up sex than the internet, if you believe a recent study. It’s probably no surprise then that our increased use of social media can also have an impact on dating and relationships. With the speed of modern technology we can easily find someone’s profile on Facebook, Twitter or Google+ in seconds and browse away. A huge change from the dating scene in the 90s, social media now plays a significant part in getting to know a new person, right down to their career prospects on LinkedIn.

Luckily for most users of social media, there is no record of you having viewed someone’s profile… or how many times. That could be awkward. ‘Hi there nice to meet you, I have actually been on your Facebook profile over seven times already’. With online dating, on the other hand, this can be a helpful way to break the ice with a new person, showing a little interest.

Whatever happened to the Blind Date?

There are obvious advantages to this technology because before meeting someone for a date, maybe it is better to check them out on their social media profiles. Why not? Given that this resource is available, why shouldn’t we just have a gander…

Some of the great and not-so-great information we can find now on social media:

  • The ex
  • Social circle
  • Those old photos that should be hidden
  • Social habits… smoker, drinker, weekly outings
  • Your conversations with others
  • Who you follow on Twitter
  • Sorry Cilla but gone are the days when you go on a ‘blind’ date. Unfortunately, there is just no such thing anymore. Nowadays we know what our date looks like in advance, so you can avoid the awkward moment of beaming at some stranger who turns out to be someone you might never otherwise have agreed to meet.

    Thanks (or maybe not) to social media we can now give ourselves the heads up on who it is we’re going to meet up with.

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    • Don’t go too far

    Risky? Well yes. Surely knowing a wealth of information, having done an excessive background check, can be detrimental?

    Imagine going on a date and knowing you have spent hours trawling through the history of that person on Facebook and Twitter. No wonder social media can cause anxiety. What would make you more anxious: slipping up and revealing you know they have an ex who now lives in Tokyo with their dog, or having to fake every polite question because you know the answer already?

    Everyone’s experience of social media is about as individual as their own social life, so we all have to try to strike a balance to suit our own individual needs. That means do go ahead and research that date, but go easy and don’t burden yourself with more history than you can handle.

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