When Your Relationship Gets Boring

Relationship Gets Boring

You know each other, top to bottom. She knows your every move; he knows the way you take your coffee in the morning. You both know each other’s body language to a flip of the hair, a raise of an eyebrow and a hunch of the shoulders. Nothing new, nothing surprising; everything old and stale.

When your relationship gets boring, it’s easy to stray and find adventure in other things (or in other people). Don’t let this happen to your relationship. Instead, strengthen the life you share so that it doesn’t crumble or become duller than paint chipping off a wall.

Follow these five tips for spicing up a boring relationship

Tip #1 Plan a Trip

Plan a Trip

To me, there’s nothing more thrilling than travel: a new place, a new culture, new foods, sights, music, art, people. A trip into the unknown is never boring; it’s eye-opening. And what can make experiencing this bright wide yonder better is if you’re doing it with someone you love. Plan a trip with your partner, and open your eyes together. If you’re bored in your relationship, seeing it in a different locale will put your partner in a new light.

Tip #2 Plan a Staycation

Plan a Staycation

Maybe you don’t have money to travel; it happens to the best of us. But, hey, you may have a few hundred dollars to spare and you still have vacation leave. Use it to overcome your relationship boredom. Instead of traveling, stay local. All you need to do is book a nice place – a hotel or cabin – near or even in your city. Pick a great new restaurant to try out and liven up your love life with a romantic long weekend. Again, a change of scenery is almost always a good thing for a relationship. Plopping down on the same ol’ couch for an eternal Netflix-binge is not.

Tip #3 Find a Common Interest

Find a Common Interest

One thing I hear often from couples is that they don’t have the same interests. They may love and be interested in each other, but how do you compromise if he’s an active outdoorsman and she’s a slippers-and-pajamas homebody? You don’t have to do everything together, but finding a few things in common that you absolutely love to do can save a relationship from sheer boredom.

For example, I enjoy writing – in fact, it’s my job – and so does my significant other, so we write together. Your relationship boredom will vanish when you reach into each other’s imaginations and explore different worlds and characters as a team. The beauty of finding a common interest is that you’ll begin to admire each other even more…and you may even create some magic together.

Tip #4 Break Out of the Comfort Zone

Break Out of the Comfort Zone

The comfort zone limits growth; this is true of personal growth and relationship growth. Staying in that comfy, cozy place where nothing challenges you is as boring as watching reruns of Friends until you pass out in your body imprint on the couch. Our ultimate boring relationships advice is to push each other to grow. If she is that slippers-and-pajamas homebody mentioned in #4, encourage her to go socialize with you on occasion. If he’s the active outdoorsman type, convince him to sit still for a moment and chill out with you to binge-watch House of Cards. Each of you should be willing to make that sacrifice for your partner and grow in yourself. Just because it makes you a bit uncomfortable, doesn’t mean it’s bad or wrong for you. Breaking from the norm will strengthen you, personally and as a couple.

Tip #5 Dig Deeper

Dig Deeper

I feel you – it’s hard to know what to do when your relationship gets boring. But if you think about it in all honesty, you probably haven’t tried digging deeper. Your partner is not inherently boring and neither is your relationship. So don’t let the curiosity about each other die out. Ask questions, discover your partner, dig deeper. If you’re curious, you’ll never be bored, because you know you don’t know (and never will know) all that there is to know about your partner.

Just because you’re bored in your relationship, doesn’t mean you should give up on it. Every relationship has its lulls. If you’re reading this article, it means you haven’t given up, so you’ve taken the first step. The next step is to try out these five tips and keep building your love for each other.

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