Couples often connect through shared values, whether these values are related to religious beliefs, political beliefs, or moral integrity. But if the couple doesn’t have anything else in common and their relationship is built upon values alone, it may not last.
Shared interests allow for some bonding time. They provide you and your partner things to do together that you both enjoy. If you don’t have any shared interests, these 5 interests to have in common with your partner are a great place to start!
- A Common At-Home Hobby
I have nerdy-friend couples who love sci-fi and put on Dungeons and Dragons parties, and I have cool-friend couples who love to build things together, like hardcore woodwork remodelings or simple Pinterest building projects. It doesn’t matter what the at-home hobby is – reading, writing, playing music, dancing, cooking, gardening, art, etc. Whatever hobby you share will help build up your togetherness and make home a place you want to be.
- A Common Outdoor Hobby
As any long-term couple knows, sometimes you start to feel too comfortable in your relationship and settle into an at-home routine, without venturing outside much. But stretching out is a must for your relationship. Find an outdoor hobby to share together – hiking, biking, fishing, skiing, kayaking, etc. – so that you can enjoy each other in a new setting and breathe some fresh air into a stale routine. Mmmmmm, it’s refreshing to get out of the house once in a while, and nature smells so good.
- A Favorite Series
After a hard workweek, sometimes you do just want to Netflix-and-chill into the weekend. This isn’t a bad thing if it’s not too frequent. In fact, it can be a simple way to share in some entertainment with your partner, while cozying up beside him/her, sharing in laughter or tears, and being intimate. Hopefully, you have similar tastes in genre, so that the series you ‘chill’ with doesn’t bore one of you to snoredom.
- A Favorite Sport
Liking the same team – or even opposing teams of the same sport – will be something that drives your coupledom. When it comes to watching or attending games, wearing your Superbowl jerseys and rooting on your Greenbay Packers can become a weekly highlight. In addition, finding a favorite sport to play together – golf, tennis, volleyball, baseball, swimming, running, etc. – is another outlet in which you can get moving and connect, simultaneously.
- A Love of Travel
Whether you’re a couple who is into resort travel or an adventuresome-spirited duo, like Lewis & Clark, seeing and exploring and experiencing new places together, outside of your routine bubble, is a fabulous way to strengthen your relationship. You can pamper yourselves at a spa weekend in the Caribbean or hike unrestored sections of the Great Wall of China. Whatever you prefer, the shared experience will be one you’ll remember for a lifetime.
While shared values are vital to any relationship, so are shared interests. A common passion about certain activities or hobbies can only strengthen your ties to each other. If you don’t naturally have common interests, never fear: if you are both willing, you can create them together!