Why People are Afraid of Commitment

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How to work on commitment issues

Whatever the reasons for you or someone you want to get close with, being scared of committing, it can be helped. There are ways to get over being afraid of commitment. Here we are going to go through some reasons why he is afraid of commitment, and some help getting over it all.


When a person feels vulnerable, they are likely to hide into their shell. We, as a species, are proud, and that isn’t always a bad thing, but there are times when it can make us scared of commitment. That’s because we don’t want to show that we have a vulnerable side.
Taking the risk and allowing yourself to be vulnerable will help you grow. There might be mistakes along the way, but without mistakes there is no success. Scientist have to try hundreds of theories before getting it right. And while hundreds may not be right when it comes to a relationship, you should allow yourself to be wrong once or twice.

Unrealistic expectations

We all believe in the “perfect one” but for some people, the search for perfection is what makes them scared to commit. Things might be missing of their list or doubts rise about the person they are with. While the media, such as films and television shows are to blame for this, it can also be attributed to a person’s personality.
In order to over come this fear of commitment, you just need to accept that perfection either doesn’t exist or is not what you thought it would be. If you like someone, then jump at the opportunity to be with them.

Allowing the past to affect the future

This is the most likely cause for someone to be scared to commit. Letting actions that happened in the past affect how you behave in present day or predict how things will be in the future.
Stop being scared of commitment because of your past. The past is there to teach you a lesson, not to stop you from moving forward. We have all been hurt and have all be cautious after because of it. But not so cautious it has affected our future relationships.

Work together to overcome fear

If you have a girlfriend afraid of commitment, or a boyfriend, then the best way to overcome it is together. Show that you are there to support one another, reassure each other and tackle any obstacle together. This way you can help your desired partner trust you, feel safe with you and finally let go of the fear they feel towards commitment. Be understanding and supportive and being scared of commitment will be a thing of the past.

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