10 Secret Signs of a Healthy Relationship
The health of a relationship largely depends on the maturity of the partners involved. If you’re with someone who acts like a child, then the relationship’s health will suffer. But if two full-grown adults come to a relationship, you should be able to make it a healthy one.
Here are 10 signs that your relationship is on the right track to good health.
- You Love to Be Around Each Other
It’s not only important to love your partner; it’s important to like them. If you dread being around your partner and don’t want to introduce him/her to your friends, then there’s something wrong.
- You Actively Try to Understand Each Other
It’s easy to get caught up in misunderstandings in a relationship. But if you’re stubborn and shut out your partner and his/her concerns, then you are looking to disconnect. Healthy partners try to understand each other and work on their problems together.
- You Fight Fairly
Speaking of understanding, you’ll need a lot of it when you fight. Fighting isn’t unhealthy, in and of itself, but fighting unfairly is. If you take the kill shot every time you fight, in order to hit your partner where they’re most vulnerable and sensitive, then you are trying to hurt them, not heal your relationship.
- You Don’t Hold Grudges
After fights, healthy partners put their problems and misunderstandings behind them. They don’t hang onto every little thing that has ever been said or done to them. They forgive and move on.
- You Share Responsibilities
The weight of financial responsibilities, household maintenance, and/or childcare should not fall on one partner. A healthy relationship is balanced. Each partner must agree it’s a fair balance and must not feel overwhelmed by responsibility.
- You Care About Your Partner’s Opinion
Partners in healthy relationships respect each other. They care about each other’s values and opinions, even if they oppose them. If you don’t respect your partner, then there’s not much of a relationship to be had.
- You Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
After living together for many years, little things may start to irritate you about your partner. The way they chew with their mouth open, the way they’re always, ALWAYS late. But despite these pet peeves, healthy partners keep calm, cool, and collected. They don’t let the small stuff eat them up inside.
- You Work Towards Happiness Together
You are partners in crime and should be acting like it. Healthy partnerships strive to work towards life goals together, with happiness being the ultimate goal.
- You Feed Your Relationship
Relationships are kept alive through both nurturing and passion. Every relationship goes through its ups and downs, but partners who work to keep things spicy and to continually connect with one another are the healthiest.
- You Are Faithful
Partners who love each other are loyal to each other. This goes back to respect and trust. A healthy relationship is built on these two pillars, and if these pillars are broken through infidelity, it’s hard to nurse the relationship back to good health. Not impossible, but extremely difficult.
If your relationship is starting to feel unhealthy, don’t give up. Consider this list to help bring it back around or seek relationship counseling if you need someone to mediate. An unhealthy relationship doesn’t have to die; it can be revitalized.