Who makes the first move online? Whoever finds someone they like amongst the profiles!
Whilst it might be commonplace that a man walks up to a woman in a bar, the woman first signals she’s willing to have him walk up to her by smiling at him. Online that would be the same as sending a wink/like, or a short message. Messages have the best response rate, so that’s the option we recommend.
When you send someone a message on a dating site, be sure to compliment them on something in their profile. That shows you cared enough to read it.
Also be sure to ask something in your message. This gives the person something to reply to, which is especially helpful if they aren’t someone who enjoy writing too much. A lot of people are better at talking than writing. For example, if they speak about their love of traveling in their profile you can ask them about a place where they’ve been, or where they plan to go next.
As soon as you figure there’s some chemistry with someone, ask to meet them for a coffee. You want to do it as soon as possible as you want to know if you have offline chemistry.