Just as with meeting and chatting to someone in a bar, there is a science to making a good impression online. Women looking for men online sometimes forget that a first impression online is as important as a first impression in real life. So how to meet men online? Below you find some advice.
First of all, make sure you have 3-6 great profile photos. In other words, that pajama picture where you look like you just woke up might not be the ideal one for an online profile. Make sure to include different photos that show you off in different lights; preferably doing things you love. Include at least one photo where you're with friends simply to show that you have a social life. Also include one photo of your face in a decent close-up, so that people can see what you actually look like.
Remember, photos should be recent, not from 10 years ago. If you include some older photos, date them. Be honest.
If you want to attract good men, you need a nicely written profile - that’s where the communication starts.
Be sure to write positive things in your profile. For example, rather than saying you don't like liars, say that what you'd love in a partner is honesty. And whilst the topic of honesty, be honest in your profile. You want to find someone who’s attracted to you after all, not a fake alter ego.
Your profile shouldn’t be too long, but long enough that people get a feel for who you are. Don’t write cliché, empty statements, but rather let your personality come out.
Men over 40 and men over 50 have slightly different preferences than men in their 20s and 30s, just like someone looking for casual dating is different from someone looking for a serious relationship, so bear that in mind when writing.
When you email someone for the first time, mention one thing you liked in their profile so they see you read it. Keep it short and sweet as well, because no one wants to read a whole essay at first. They just want a little taster of who you are.
Women often say they want to meet successful men - men who are happy with all areas of their life and therefore feel confident and ready to settle down. Are older men and rich men more successful and therefore great to date? Well, age hopefully brings wisdom and money might show they have a happy career, but truth be told many older, rich men are unhappy. They might have succeeded in a career they don’t like, or hold onto their one achievement as they fear they don’t have much else to show for.
Use common sense when looking to find a man who’s happy with his life. Meet in public the first few times you go out and don’t mention where you live, don’t give out credit card numbers, etc. Then take your time to get to know him before you fall in love with him. Find out what he’s truly like in different situations.
In short: take your time. Attraction is instant, but getting to know every aspect of someone’s personality takes time.