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WINGMAN BARNEY | FEBRUARY 22, 2021

Pros and Cons of Dating an Older Man or Woman

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My follower asked me, “I met a man who is 15 years older than me. Should I date him or not?”

You’ve met an older guy. You’ve never dated anyone who’s 10-20-30 years your senior, but this guy is something special, and you want to give him a shot. Or maybe you’ve met an older woman, and she’s a goddess. She’s your Mrs. Robinson, and you’re mature enough to match her.

But how will this relationship work out? Is the age gap too wide? Does age matter? Well, there are a number of pros and cons of dating an older man or woman…and they’re one and the same.

Pro: They’re Mature

When you’re thinking of dating older men, the pros and cons list should include their maturity level. It’s a scientific fact that women mature faster than men, so if you’re a mature young woman who’s going after an older guy, you may be on the same level. On the other hand, if you’re a young guy who’s mature, going after an older woman would be ideal for you, mentally and emotionally.

Con: They’re Mature

Then again, maturity isn’t always fun. If you’re young and free-spirited, you don’t want a stick-in-the-mud rolling their eyes at the walrus teeth you made out of straws at dinner. Sometimes dating someone who is too mature can be a real downer.

Pro: They’re Experienced

Someone who is older than you can be your teacher in a number of ways. They’ve been around the block a time or two, so they’re experienced in relationships, and they may be better apt at dealing with relationship issues. An older person can also teach you about life. A partner you can take advice from is important to your personal growth.

Con: They’re Experienced

Then again, they’re experienced, and their relationships may not have worked out in the past. Older doesn’t always mean wiser, and they may have a lot of baggage. So perhaps they’re not anyone to learn or take advice from.

Pro: They’re Financially Stable

As with dating older men, when you’re dating older women, the pros and cons are many. One of these pros is that they are often more financially stable. If you aren’t particularly flush, dating someone older can mean a step up in the financial bracket. Of course, this can be a wonderful thing when it comes to the quality of life…and you no longer have to fear your landlord or pick up the check. If finances are a problem, this can only be a good thing.

Con: They’re Financially Stable

Or is it? A huge difference in income can be an area of contention in any relationship, whether there’s an age gap or not. If an older man or woman is trying to buy your love, it’s unlikely that there will be any real love in the relationship. Money can be used as power, keeping you dependent and on a short leash.

As you can see, the pros and cons of dating an older woman or man can go either way. It completely depends on who you are and who this older man or woman is. Age shouldn’t matter if love is there, but it can be an issue, even in a loving relationship. And it can be a deal-breaker if there’s no love at all. My advice: take a look at your relationship and analyze it a bit before dating someone significantly older than you.

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How to Build a Relationship if a Man is Much Older?

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All ages are submissive to love, of course. But when one of the participants in this very love is noticeably younger, communication difficulties may appear.

What should couples do when a girl was born a little later than her companion?

Philosopher's Stone And Eternal Youth

Many studies claim that the best way to prolong a man's youth and vitality is to have an affair with a young lady. Healthy food and green smoothies are cool, but not so much fun, you must admit.

Gentlemen at an age who are lucky enough to get a young girlfriend live longer and healthier than their peers, to whom the Universe has not given such a gift.

If you are already a deeply adult and lonely man, then you should know - no massager from the shop will charge you with such energy as a hot girl who barely caught the 80s.

For everyone interested in their health and intending to blow out a hundred candles on a birthday cake, we offer the top 10 tips that will help you attract and conquer a young lady.

P.S. Lovely girls, read and memorize spy information while we turn our backs.

Hot Ten

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  1. The only one, not one night

Girls have long learned to recognize pick-up artists' clever designs and bring them out into the open. They have learned the rules of the game and will not allow themselves to be deceived. By games, we mean these ridiculous "disappearances" for three weeks, and after a playful message like "How are you?", Nightly "Miss you, will you come?" and so on.

“When I meet a guy my age, I assume that there is a certain amount of infantilism in him that will have to be put up with,” says 26-year-old July.

“In the past, I had two affairs with older men, and in both cases, I was fully confident that I could not be afraid of immature games. In addition, this is a person who has learned a lot from past relationships and mistakes made”- another revelation from the female side.

"Older men looking for relationships with young girls should remember that we will not tolerate any shit just because we are young."

  1. Not only lovemaking

Yes, having lovemaking with an older man is great, but unless a man is dating a nymphomaniac, he shouldn't make manhood the most important part of the relationship.

In relationships, you need to pay sufficient attention to romance and spiritual contact.

“As if they had to get you, they relax. They forget what it means to “date,” - complains 25-year-old Rebecca.

  1. Behave your age

“Most of my men were older than me. If there is a big age difference between partners, then there are certain expectations. According to your age, I expect you to be a mature person, from whom you can learn a lot, who is looking for a serious relationship and who knows who he is” - Shezra, 30.

  1. Leave childishness in the past

“There is a specific reason why I choose older men - I don't want to deal with an infantile, inexperienced, naive boy... So don't be like that.” - Kate, 27.

  1. Everything has its time

“Don't make us live in your rhythm of life. If I'm not ready for what you matured for years ago, find yourself a lady by age and leave me alone. Do not force us to do anything (wedding, children, etc.)” - Johari, 29.

  1. Honesty matters

“What attracts you now may start to tire later, when you both get old. So be honest with yourself and decide what attracts you to a girl."

  1. Be young

Yes, we were told to behave according to age. But you don't need to turn into an old fart (only if this is not a fetish for the girl).

“If age just numbers, then don't act like a grandpa. We love to go out and have fun, so get ready to shake your ass!" - advises Carliah, 29.

So if you don't like to hang out and get drunk or knead dirt at music festivals, you probably shouldn't look for a young woman.

  1. Not everyone is looking for sponsors

“Not all of us are financially helpless. We need a partner, not a daddy.” - 35-year-old Janette is a strong and independent part of the female side.

  1. Meeting her parents

“My boyfriend is closer in age to my father than to me. When I told my parents that I was dating a much older man, they were very skeptical - but as soon as we celebrated the first anniversary of the relationship, they realized that everything was serious and wanted to meet him. It was weird, but I think my boyfriend did a great job.”

“He joked about the sports championship, which he and his father both met (and I, of course, not), and everything went smoothly,” - Sarah, 27.

  1. Prepare to stand a trial

When people see a couple with a significant age difference, they inevitably start to stare. They will also think that the man is next to the girl:

  1. – Her father
  2. – Her sugar daddy

“I was ready for the ordeals that a girl goes through in such a situation, but I was clearly not ready for the condemnation that others expressed right in our face” - Jane, 26.

“At the beginning of our relationship, we went to a bar. When my man went to the toilet, the bartender leaned over to me and said, “I know he has more money than me. But I can do things that he is too old for if you know what I mean. I was terribly angry, and I had no words. When my boyfriend returned, I told him what had happened. I thought he would say something to the bartender, or at least be as upset as me. But he said that he was sorry, but this had to happen, and all we can do is not to let someone else's ignorance spoil our relationship. He was right, and this happened more than once. In such a relationship, both parties should get a thick skin and stop paying attention to other people's opinions." – Lily, 24

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