How to Start the First Conversation with a Girl on a Date

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Tomorrow is your first date with the girl of your dreams, and you are speechless…literally. You keep picturing yourself blanking out, resulting in the most awkward of silences. You need some conversation fodder to get you through. You have no problem talking to your dude friends, but how to start a conversation with a girl?

Never fear! We have all that you need to start the first conversation with your new flame.

Find Common Ground

Find Common Ground

If you’re wondering how to talk to your girlfriend, answer this question: Why is she your girlfriend in the first place? It’s probably because you have something in common with her. You wouldn’t have asked her out unless you shared some common ground. Use this common ground as a jumping off point for your first conversation. It’s easier to talk about something when you’re passionate about it.

Know What Women Want

Know What Women Want

If you’re not sure what you have in common – or whether you have anything in common at all – , you may be asking yourself, “What do girls like to talk about?” Well, just like men, women like to talk about their interests, hobbies and passions. Ask her what she’s passionate about and then show genuine interest in her reply. Follow up this question with more questions, and make sure they’re open-ended, like: “How did you get started with (this hobby)?” “What do you feel when you do it?” “Who inspires you?”

Be Engaged

There’s nothing worse than being asked a question and then watching the person who asked that question drift off as you start to answer. Don’t turn your ears off and let your eyes glaze over once you’ve started the conversation. Be engaged. Hold eye contact. React and respond to her answers. She’ll feel a connection with you if you’re an active listener and an engaging conversationalist.

Flirt

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Get your flirt on with a bit of teasing. Laugh and be playful. Show her your sense of humor. If you have a particularly dark or sarcastic one, don’t let that loose too soon. You don’t want to come across as mean-spirited. But a little light-hearted banter can make any relationship more fun.

Be Positive

Be Positive

While it’s comforting to bemoan something that you both hate, complain too much, and you’ll be deemed a Debbie Downer. Instead, it’s important to come across as positive and optimistic, especially in these first getting-to-know-you moments. Don’t go overboard and turn into some craze-eyed bowl of sunshine. Find the happy medium of positivity and realism that makes any person a delight to be around.

Share Your Dreams

Share Your Dreams

In my experience, girls love a guy who’s passionate. Be passionate about something, and share that passion with her. Not only will it show her you have a bit of fire and drive in you, it’ll also reveal to her what motivates you. Whether it’s music, literature, art, or even Game of Thrones, being into something will make her into you.

Although it may seem frightening to get that first word out, it’ll be easier if you talk to her like she’s just one of your friends. Chill out, relax and get your conversation going with these six tips on how to start a first conversation with a girl on a date.

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