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WINGMAN BARNEY | FEBRUARY 22, 2021

How to Start the First Conversation with a Girl on a Date

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Tomorrow is your first date with the girl of your dreams, and you are speechless…literally. You keep picturing yourself blanking out, resulting in the most awkward of silences. You need some conversation fodder to get you through. You have no problem talking to your dude friends, but how to start a conversation with a girl?

Never fear! We have all that you need to start the first conversation with your new flame.

Find Common Ground

Find Common Ground

If you’re wondering how to talk to your girlfriend, answer this question: Why is she your girlfriend in the first place? It’s probably because you have something in common with her. You wouldn’t have asked her out unless you shared some common ground. Use this common ground as a jumping-off point for your first conversation. It’s easier to talk about something when you’re passionate about it.

Know What Women Want

Know What Women Want

If you’re not sure what you have in common – or whether you have anything in common at all –, you may be asking yourself, “What do girls like to talk about?” Well, just like men, women like to talk about their interests, hobbies, and passions. Ask her what she’s passionate about and then show genuine interest in her reply. Follow up this question with more questions, and make sure they’re open-ended, like: “How did you get started with (this hobby)?” “What do you feel when you do it?” “Who inspires you?”

Be Engaged

There’s nothing worse than being asked a question and then watching the person who asked that question drift off as you start to answer. Don’t turn your ears off and let your eyes glaze over once you’ve started the conversation. Be engaged. Hold eye contact. React and respond to her answers. She’ll feel a connection with you if you’re an active listener and an engaging conversationalist.

Flirt

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Get your flirt on with a bit of teasing. Laugh and be playful. Show her your sense of humor. If you have a particularly dark or sarcastic one, don’t let that loose too soon. You don’t want to come across as mean-spirited. But a little light-hearted banter can make any relationship more fun.

Be Positive

Be Positive

While it’s comforting to bemoan something that you both hate, complain too much, and you’ll be deemed a Debbie Downer. Instead, it’s important to come across as positive and optimistic, especially in these first getting-to-know-you moments. Don’t go overboard and turn into some craze-eyed bowl of sunshine. Find the happy medium of positivity and realism that makes any person a delight to be around.

Share Your Dreams

Share Your Dreams

In my experience, girls love passionate guys. Be passionate about something, and share that passion with her. Not only will it show her you have a bit of fire and drive in you, but it’ll also reveal to her what motivates you. Whether it’s music, literature, art, or even Game of Thrones, being into something will make her into you.

Although it may seem frightening to get that first word out, it’ll be easier if you talk to her like she’s just one of your friends. Chill out, relax and get your conversation going with these six tips on how to start the first conversation with a girl on a date.

100 Topics for Talking With a Circuit Girl

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It cannot be denied that the modern age of technology has completely changed the way we communicate. Many people now prefer to meet online. Not surprisingly, texting has several advantages over personal flirting: you don't have to worry about looking nervous; there is enough time to think about the answer; besides, you can ask questions that you would hesitate to ask during real communication.

100 Topics for Texting With a Girl

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  1. 1. What pleased you the most today?
  2. What's your favorite place in the world?
  3. What really cheers you up?
  4. What movie are you ready to watch many times?
  5. What's the biggest goal in your life right now?
  6. How do you prefer to spend your weekend?
  7. What kind of music do you like to listen to?
  8. What kind of child were you?
  9. An interesting fact about myself, but which I would never even think to ask? What was your most touching childhood memory?
  10. If you could go anywhere in the world now, where would you go?
  11. What TV shows did you like to watch as a child?
  12. If you could get yourself an exotic animal, who would live in your house?
  13. What would you choose: one superpower of your choice or an endless amount of money?
  14. Would you like to live in another country? If so, which one?
  15. Do you like sitting at home or spending time outdoors?
  16. Did you have any trouble today?
  17. Imagine that you went on a journey around the world. Which countries would you visit?
  18. What three wishes will you make if the Genie suddenly arrives?
  19. When was the last time you got in trouble?
  20. If you could transform into any animal, what would you become? Why? What sport will you never play?
  21. What popular trend annoys you?
  22. How did you spend your last vacation?
  23. What are the five benefits of your job?
  24. Do you prefer active or relaxing holidays?
  25. What hobbies did you have as a child? Which three words will describe you best?
  26. Do you have a favorite song that you sing most often in the shower?
  27. What's your favorite cartoon?
  28. What's the best part about your job?
  29. What do you pay attention to when you look at a man?
  30. Imagine that you have become invisible for the whole day. What will you do first?
  31. Have you ever been caught doing something you shouldn't have done?
  32. The most embarrassing moment in your life?
  33. When was the last time you stepped out of your comfort zone?
  34. Do you have a Wishlist?
  35. Have you ever had a crush on two men at once?
  36. Do you often go to bed at dawn?
  37. How many men have you broken your heart?
  38. Can you wiggle your nose or ears?
  39. What do you think about tattoos?
  40. Do you have a tattoo, or would you like to get it?
  41. Aliens captured the planet, and only you can save humanity from destruction, but for this, you have to kiss a person of your same-lovemaking. Who will it be?
  42. Do one-legged ducks swim in circles?
  43. Do you like to sing in the shower, in the car, or when no one is home?
  44. Which celebrity do you want to meet?
  45. What gives you pleasure?
  46. Do you remember your worst joke?
  47. The police arrested you without giving a reason. Your family and friends are trying to guess what crime you have committed. What would it be, in their opinion?
  48. What was your most ridiculous outfit?
  49. What name would you never give your child?
  50. What would the world be like if only your female and male copies existed in it?
  51. Do dentists visit other dentists or do everything themselves?
  52. What other people's bad habits annoy you?
  53. How would the world change if you had to become God?
  54. What three things have you never done and will not do?
  55. Do you have allergies? For what?
  56. Top 5 most useful things in the kitchen and why?
  57. Who did you last hug with?
  58. How do you spend your free time?
  59. If you could play any musical instrument, what would it be? What's the most useful thing in your home?
  60. Do you like listening to music loudly or softly?
  61. What's the strangest dream you've had?
  62. What language do you think is the most beautiful? Be honest... How many selfies do you have on your phone?
  63. What do you do when you are bored?
  64. Do you think you can give up modern technology for a week? What language would you like to learn?
  65. If you find $ 1,000 now, what will you spend it on?
  66. What is the most popular song on your player?
  67. What's the stupidest joke you've ever heard?
  68. What do you choose: a day at the beach or a marathon in the movies?
  69. How do you relieve stress?
  70. Is there a person in your life whom you are glad to see more than anything else?
  71. What made you laugh the last time?
  72. What's the most beautiful place you've visited?
  73. Do you believe in karma?
  74. What's your favorite season? Why?
  75. What song did you dance to the last time?
  76. What is the most beautiful place near your home?
  77. Have you ever dropped your phone in the toilet?
  78. What's the nicest / worst / weirdest message you've received?
  79. What application would you recommend installing on your phone?
  80. What is your screen saver on your phone now?
  81. What do you do first when you wake up?
  82. What's the best selfie you've ever taken with your phone? Send it to me.
  83. What animal do you associate yourself with?
  84. Do you often watch YouTube?
  85. What was the last video you watched?
  86. You need to choose three people with whom you will find yourself on a desert island. Who will it be and why?
  87. If you were walking through the forest and saw a bear, what would you do?
  88. You are guaranteed honest answers to three questions. Who do you ask them, and what do you ask?
  89. Who has influenced you the most?
  90. If a person wants to change for the better, where should he start? What event in your life influenced you the most?
  91. Is there a person in your life for whom you are ready to sacrifice your life? Who is he?
  92. Do you think the future is better than the present? Why?
  93. Do you often lie to yourself? And others?
  94. What obstacles prevent people from realizing their dreams?
  95. Do you often find yourself unable to sleep at night? Why?
  96. Have you ever doubted the existence of love?
  97. Is there a moment in your past that you regret the most? How old were you when you first kissed?
  98. Would you like to confess something to me?
  99. What is most important for a harmonious relationship?
  100. Do you often think about the past?

After reviewing this list of topics, you can find the most appropriate questions for yourself that you would like to discuss with the girl. We guarantee you that you will make her chat all day and night long by using these means of conversation.

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